Poem.

BDSM-ism

Bondage

Discipline

Sado-Masochism

It’s about role play

Cool, but how does it come to be that way?

BDSM - is there more to explore about the origins of the acronym?

I’ve started to think about how sex is linked to the world we live in

Our society, our -isms, take Capitalism

A power play, a currency exchange and exploitation

I harvest, you work the plantation

Or like Patriarch-ism say

I come - you pay

It’s not like I’m not here to turn you on

But more to look into why sex feels good, when it’s a little bit wrong

Am I coming on too strong?

Well maybe it’s about time that I did

For the all the internalised isms that kept my true desire hid

So don’t go, stay with me here in the foreplay

let’s slow it down, not too fast ok?

Look at me

sync with me

Light me up like the sun and don’t let it go down on me

 
 
 

Bondage

A desire to be bound, lost not found, gagged, compelled

Knees on the floor, you beg for more

Breathless confessions whispered to the night

It feels wrong, and it feels so fucking right

Alright, what is it inside that craves this duality

Why would a firm grip, a little whip, a collar

Be the protocol of your new lover?

Is it wrong or do you secretly just want to belong…

Be bought, paid for, consumed

Stripped down, you shiver in the nude

Prized, kept, chained, owned

Sold to the highest bidder, but no longer alone

Bondage, subjected to external power or control

There’s union in surrender

Digging into dark parts of the whole

Discipline

They slap your skin, again and again and again

It’s not about the pain for you is it?

It’s a break in the mundane for you, no?

That sharp intake of breath through your open mouth

The tangling of skin in between your brows as you frown

Eyes closed, taking vows of obedience

But it’s not even about the experience for you is it?

It’s about order

Regular points of contact at evenly spaced intervals

Gwitsshh huh (intake of breath)

Gwitsshh huh (intake of breath)

Rhythmic anchors in the chaos of existence

All you wish for is a master with persistence

So you can give in to the sweet path of least resistance

They say thats where love is

Your teeth sink down into your bottom lip

Silk slips, and you bite into the night

Discipline

Repetitive acts in accordance with rules

Blood rushes to your flesh in response to that slap

For this you must be punished, a good girl doesn’t talk back

 
 
 

Sado-Masochism

A sadist

A masochist

An inflictor and receiver of shame

We all grew up under the patriarchy by any other name

Tits up, this is a similar game

Is objectification allowed in a consensual exchange - sure

But what was it you were really looking for?

With your hands and feet tied up, face to the floor

When the earth opened and swallowed you, did you find out more?

When the hot wax seared your skin, was it sore?

Were those feelings even real…

Or a result of social programming

Who orchestrated these positions

Where did we learn who gets to make sexual decisions?

Was it our religions? A need to cast burdens at the feet of something bigger

An itch, a scratch, a trigger

I submit, you dominate, I submit - you take the bate

And the body keeps the score

Of all the violations we don’t have the words for

And I ask myself whether you know the deal

That sex is what collective bodies do together in order to heal 

- the individual

A way to non-verbally process subconscious landscapes

Bind us together, call us sado-masochists

Are we deviant? Or a product of environments?

Feel it out, smooth over those kinks on the spectrum

Caress and romance the -isms out from under your skin

Take my tongue to your ear and let the honey seep in

 
 

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